Dreams are powerful motivators for action. You invest a lot in making your dreams a reality. So it can be devastating when your dream is unable to take form or has to be abandoned because of circumstance.

Death of a dream

My first real dream was shattered with my burnout. Up until that point, I thought I knew where I was going with my life. My career path seemed clear through to retirement. I was so sure, so focussed, so single-minded.

As I had never considered alternatives to the dream, when burnout came I was so… lost.

I didn’t know who I was now or what I could do or what my options were. It felt like my training and studies had been wasted, that I was a failure, that I had nothing to offer anyone. I felt alone.

It was painful.

And the questions came for which I had no answers:

  • How am I going to support myself?
  • How long will my savings last before I have to do something?
  • Who can help me?

It was a scary place to be

And I stopped dreaming without even realising it. Survival was paramount.

Over a year later I discovered that I was dreaming about the future again and exploring possibilities.   What a surprise!

What helped?

  • Stabilising my circumstances so that my basic needs (food, shelter) were not at risk.
  • Opening myself up to new opportunities and learning new skills.
  • Connecting with friends, family and significant others for support as I worked through the difficult emotions and grief related to the burnout and the circumstances leading to it.  My support network also affirmed the strengths and gifts I had, which gave me the confidence to begin exploring a range of possibilities and redefining my future.

Have your dreams died?

Maybe you are facing a redundancy, a significant health issue, a relationship break-up, a relocation, burn-out or something other…

If you would like a confidential space to work through your loss and to begin to define a new dream, contact Cynosure Support Services. We’re here to support you to reignite your life!